Bullies, Bigmouths & So-called Friends

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978-0340875650 (for boys)

The world is divided between those who think self-help guides are the bee’s knees and those who run from them. Whatever one’s view, there is much in this book that children might well find of real help. It begins with the idea that children should go into training to build up their courage and self-esteem. They should do this by learning to ‘talk it out’ – in the first instance, if necessary, by keeping a private diary, either in word or picture form. There is emphasis on being responsible for oneself, on not taking what people say personally, on positive thinking and anger management, and on the avoidance of fear. Practical ideas such as putting up signs around the room with phrases such as ‘Get Real’ or ‘Expect the Best’ and lots of quizzes and tests are given in readable teen-speak, and Alexander uses classic stories (put simply) such as Pollyanna, The Three Little Pigs, and Great Expectations to make salient points. She usually avoids psychobabble although occasionally puts forth ideas which seem extreme, such as lessening the fear of walking down a corridor where one usually meets a bully by saying ‘I love you corridor’! The book is aimed at the 9 to 12s, but I wonder if the lower end of this age group would have the self-discipline required to get much out of the ideas included. Websites and useful telephone numbers will help those who need further assistance.